Life and its woes?

Ive got most things sorted in my life, got a house, good job, four great kids, just in the process of buying a new car, money in the back, no debts or so to speak. I've been told i look young for my age 41, dress well. Just dont seem to be able to attract the right man the only ones i seem to attract want me for one thing. I go out as much as i can just never seems to happen been married twice. Any tips